Caregiving

I was trained in the healthcare field and was good at what I did.

When my husband became legally blind from diabetes, our life changed. He lost his independence, and I got to suffer the consequence. I thought I could handle it. But that was only the beginning of an emotional roller coaster I would later find out went faster and faster and I couldn’t get off. That is the nature of caregiving. We don’t want to ditch out on our loved ones as they begin to need us so desperately, but caregivers need to take care of themselves too! I had no idea what I was in for when I started, and I would have loved to read a quick read book on what to expect and how to cope with it all. I found that I was never alone, although there were many times I felt lonely and misunderstood. I found that God never left me alone and provided for us when I didn’t even know what we needed. That is why I wrote, “Experiencing God While Caregiving.” It is a field manual for the new caregiver chronicling my experience and the things I learned and felt would be helpful.

Don’t Go It Alone

I do a few studies every morning, and it amazes me how many times they are all on the same topic even though they are by different authors, sometimes written decades apart. It also surprises me that they often speak to the concerns of my soul. You may be...

Finding Self in Caregiving

I was a caregiver for my husband almost 10 years ago, but the feelings I had are just under the surface of my emotional being. This past summer my husband (I remarried) had a horrible sciatic nerve pinch, and he was on his back for four straight weeks with...

Rethinking Expectations

I went to a lovely wedding this weekend. The weather was rainy while we sat waiting for the wedding to start and was still sprinkling as the bridesmaids and groomsmen walked down the garden trail to the wedding pergola in the beautiful setting of a garden...

Family Is Our Friend

Caregiving is like running a marathon only you may not have any idea where the end is, and you don’t get to wear cute little outfits, and there are not a crowd of people cheering you to the finish. Many times, not even family is there to help out when...

Resistance

I mentioned in my last caregiving blog post that I felt off guard when my husband had sciatic nerve pain. I had plans, and now they needed to be pushed aside to care for the urgent. Memories of caregiving in the past flooded my thoughts, and I became...

Not Always Prepared

When I first became a caregiver for my husband I had time to prepare myself for the road ahead. I had worked in a hospital and nursing home, and I knew what the road ahead could look like for both of us. I felt good, I was strong, and I was full of energy....

Forgiveness As A Caregiver

You are probably involved in caregiving in some way, or you would not be reading this blog on caregiving. Caregiving is hard, and it is lonely. At times it seems like a roller coaster of emotions and sometimes a runaway train of responsibility. Sometimes...

Not A Messiah

In a book by Gail Shehey titled, Passages in Caregiving, she brings up an excellent point. I had seen this phenomenon in my caregiving journey, and I feel it can happen to anyone who is caregiving for any real length of time. It is called the Messiah...

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  1. Penny Wilson

    I purchased Sherry’s book on Caregiving for a friend who is caring for her mother-in-law with Alzheimer’s. Before mailing it to her, however, I decided to “skim a few pages.” I was so drawn in and encouraged by it that I ended up reading the entire book. Little did I Know that a short month and a half later I would be caregiving for my husband as he went through a traumatic health event. It was life-changing and exhausting and scary! But all throughout the situation, I found myself drawing on the advice and tips and insights which Sherry had shared in her book. It made the experience significantly easier for me, as I recalled Sherry’s own life lessons. Because of her book, I was bold in the hospital and asked lots of questions, pushing for a better diagnosis when things weren’t lining up. Because of her insight, I knew to grab that cup of tea I was craving and a sandwich while my husband was in tests (because I couldn’t be a help for him then anyway; medical personnel were there to handle things for him then). Because of her advice, I knew to let others give to me and help, rather than try to play the martyr and do it all myself, which would’ve only added to my exhaustion. I accepted rides to appointments, let loving friends pay for hotels near the hospital, and doggedly pursued discounts on medical bills because the book had given me insights on how to be strong, yet accepting of help in a caregiving situation. I thank God for His obvious provision through this book, even before I knew I needed it. I highly recommend this book to others who are in caregiving situations; you will gain both practical tips as well as encouragement for your soul. I also recommend it to those who have friends who are caregivers for others; and if you are part of a church that wants to know how to help caregivers within your body, you will gain many insights on how to bless someone who is under the heavy load of caregiving. I feel so blessed to have had God place this book in my life just prior to when I would be needing the help therein. I know you will be blessed also, as you relish the awareness that you are not alone in this journey and that others have done it and survived and even thrived.

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    • caregivingboost

      Thank you Penny,

      I am so glad my book, Experiencing God While Caregiving was such a huge help for your caregiving journey. There are so many things we don’t know when we are first faced with the care and the emotional rollercoaster that goes with that care, leave alone all the ins and outs of maintaining sanity through it all. Knowing how to help ourselves be strong and our loved ones, who feel helpless, feel more involved in the decisions for their health makes it better.

      Thank you too for the encouragement that this information is helpful. My hope for writing the book is that people in your situation would feel encouraged and empowered to rise to their best. Sherry

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