Caregiving

I was trained in the healthcare field and was good at what I did.

When my husband became legally blind from diabetes, our life changed. He lost his independence, and I got to suffer the consequence. I thought I could handle it. But that was only the beginning of an emotional roller coaster I would later find out went faster and faster and I couldn’t get off. That is the nature of caregiving. We don’t want to ditch out on our loved ones as they begin to need us so desperately, but caregivers need to take care of themselves too! I had no idea what I was in for when I started, and I would have loved to read a quick read book on what to expect and how to cope with it all. I found that I was never alone, although there were many times I felt lonely and misunderstood. I found that God never left me alone and provided for us when I didn’t even know what we needed. That is why I wrote, “Experiencing God While Caregiving.” It is a field manual for the new caregiver chronicling my experience and the things I learned and felt would be helpful.

Not A Messiah

In a book by Gail Shehey titled, Passages in Caregiving, she brings up an excellent point. I had seen this phenomenon in my caregiving journey, and I feel it can happen to anyone who is caregiving for any real length of time. It is called the Messiah...

5 Ways to Help Yourself Cope

During my years of caregiving, I made a lot of mistakes. I tended not to want to bother anyone with my schedule or my concerns. In other words, I tried to do everything myself, and I internalized my concerns. People often said I was stoic and calm in...

The Oldest Job, part 1

I hadn’t thought of this before, but I believe caregiving is probably the oldest job after farming and hunting. I know, I know, prostitution has been given that honor. Robin Williams told a joke one time, “In the beginning God created light, but man...

Captain of our Soul

It matters not how straight the gate How charged with punishments the scroll I am the master of my fate I am the captain of my soul   From “Invictus” by W. E. Henley   It’s a lovely thought, isn’t it? As you hear the doctor’s diagnosis and an unknown...

Things Can Get Messy

As we enter the caregiving phase in life, we may be scared of the unknown ahes, but we are fresh at it, and we feel some confidence too. That’s good! Start strong! After a few doctor’s appointments and tests and diet changes, medication changes with all...

Praise for Nature

Caregiving is a beautiful thing to do for someone. You are an unsung hero! Never doubt that! It can be lonely, and sometimes it feels like the walls are closing in. Your carereciever is having a bad day physically and emotionally, and you are the one there...

You are a Hero

Dear Caregiving Soul, I want to break this blog down to address many of the drains on the caregiver's soul. If you have been a caregiver for a few years, you know that caregiving can cause you to lose touch with what is important to you and what you need...

Spring is coming

Hello Caregiving Soul, Are you and your loved one tired of looking at snow or brown grass? Many gardening supply stores are getting their seeds and growing supplies out for sale. Have you thought of starting a small garden this year?  Or maybe you have a garden, but...

Finding time to exercise

Dear Caregiving Soul, We all know that exercise is important. It affects our attitude, our self worth, our health and our muscle tone. As caregivers we often think we do not have time to exercise, especially when our loved one becomes weaker and more dependent. That...

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  1. Penny Wilson

    I purchased Sherry’s book on Caregiving for a friend who is caring for her mother-in-law with Alzheimer’s. Before mailing it to her, however, I decided to “skim a few pages.” I was so drawn in and encouraged by it that I ended up reading the entire book. Little did I Know that a short month and a half later I would be caregiving for my husband as he went through a traumatic health event. It was life-changing and exhausting and scary! But all throughout the situation, I found myself drawing on the advice and tips and insights which Sherry had shared in her book. It made the experience significantly easier for me, as I recalled Sherry’s own life lessons. Because of her book, I was bold in the hospital and asked lots of questions, pushing for a better diagnosis when things weren’t lining up. Because of her insight, I knew to grab that cup of tea I was craving and a sandwich while my husband was in tests (because I couldn’t be a help for him then anyway; medical personnel were there to handle things for him then). Because of her advice, I knew to let others give to me and help, rather than try to play the martyr and do it all myself, which would’ve only added to my exhaustion. I accepted rides to appointments, let loving friends pay for hotels near the hospital, and doggedly pursued discounts on medical bills because the book had given me insights on how to be strong, yet accepting of help in a caregiving situation. I thank God for His obvious provision through this book, even before I knew I needed it. I highly recommend this book to others who are in caregiving situations; you will gain both practical tips as well as encouragement for your soul. I also recommend it to those who have friends who are caregivers for others; and if you are part of a church that wants to know how to help caregivers within your body, you will gain many insights on how to bless someone who is under the heavy load of caregiving. I feel so blessed to have had God place this book in my life just prior to when I would be needing the help therein. I know you will be blessed also, as you relish the awareness that you are not alone in this journey and that others have done it and survived and even thrived.

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    • caregivingboost

      Thank you Penny,

      I am so glad my book, Experiencing God While Caregiving was such a huge help for your caregiving journey. There are so many things we don’t know when we are first faced with the care and the emotional rollercoaster that goes with that care, leave alone all the ins and outs of maintaining sanity through it all. Knowing how to help ourselves be strong and our loved ones, who feel helpless, feel more involved in the decisions for their health makes it better.

      Thank you too for the encouragement that this information is helpful. My hope for writing the book is that people in your situation would feel encouraged and empowered to rise to their best. Sherry

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